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We’ve been fortunate enough to have two healthy babies who are growing into strong girls. Neither has had anything more than a runny nose or high temperature so far. But what if this wasn’t the case and we were reliant upon healthcare beyond the usual measure of calpol or the odd appointment with the GP? […]

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Image credit: Pexels If there is one thing that I’ve learnt over the last few months, it’s that in terms of every day parenting of a pre-schooler, there aren’t many things that are worse than when you drop them off at nursery only to be traumatised by their huge desire to not want to be […]

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Many people will see another article about breastfeeding and roll their eyes. Why do we keep talking about it? Haven’t there been enough articles on this? Haven’t people got better things to do with their time? Others will feel stronger emotions when they see another headline; frustration, anger, guilt, regret … because they really wanted […]

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Walking with a toddler takes time. Time sweet time. The kind of time that despite countless experiences remains almost impossible to comprehend. A bit like waiting for the bell to ring at the end of a school day. Or for a Chinese take away to arrive. Or for that blue idiot Iggle Piggle to float […]

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I can still remember the first time I referred to my daughter on the phone as, ‘My Daughter’. It was to make her first doctor’s appointment. I remember almost laughing as I said the words in the most grown up, competent-sounding voice I could muster: “I’d like to make an appointment – for my daughter, […]

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My daughter was born in Britain, so despite having American parents, she’s British. My husband and I always intended to get her American citizenship too, but because it involves a fee, paperwork and a day spent at the US embassy in Edinburgh, we kept putting it off. “We’ll do it eventually,” we said. Now I’m […]

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I’ve been considering keeping a tally of the amount of times I swear inwardly (and outwardly) in one day. Some days I feel like I am saying “For Fuck’s Sake” or “Bollocks” more times than someone without Tourette’s actually should.  I’m more than happy to sit in a circle at Swearers Anonymous and tell a […]

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Pregnancy after loss can be a long, harrowing journey. My rainbow pregnancy was often dramatic and my husband and I were unable to fully relax. We constantly battled against fearing the worst. Until the worst almost happened. When Pregnancy comes to stay, she always calls the shots. In aid of Baby Loss Awareness Week, which […]

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This was never in the plan. But here you are. Parenting separately. How you got here doesn’t matter right now. All that matters is to get this right. Sharing custody means sharing a child. It means sharing a child’s life. This can be messy. This can be confusing. This can be stressful. This most definitely […]

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I can pinpoint the moment where the support network I had when I was giving birth melted away; the next morning. After Elijah, had been admitted to neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) overnight and I was moved to a side room. I asked her where my baby was, how he was. The midwife shrugged, she […]

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